Of course, that was my inclination when I started my own therapy work many years ago, yet since then it has been echoed back to me in many ways by many different people that it has become part of the underpinning of all my work, that we really are better off for having done the work to find ourselves or change ourselves no matter what we find or what we fail to find in our life continuum.

Therapy is a way for people to come from not knowing to knowing. Whether they are trying to deal with their problems in relationships, sorting out what to do with their lives in terms of a career, getting over the loss of someone close, dealing with problems arising with their children or just dealing generally with the meaning of their existence in this world, the actual journey in therapy is toward knowing. The reason for much of people’s pain is dealt with in that journey, as is the pain itself. The result can be that ones pain will be diminished and in some areas completely dissolved.

People firstly need to find out all they can about their situation, about their condition. They must come to understand the make up of their problems fully. During this time, and more so as the understanding is experienced, people are confronted with the question … Do they therefore, actually want to change? After this is dealt with, they will need to learn the ways and means, the skills to enable them to bring about these changes. The fourth layer is to learn how to apply these newly found ways of being, most especially in their everyday life where it does not always pay to follow a feeling.